Nowadays we struggle to fit in, fall into peer pressure, get trapped in other people’s opinions, and often lose ourselves before finding ourselves again. This world can be filled with negativity and criticism, but we have to remind ourselves that other’s opinions doesn’t define who you really are as a person. Nobody knows the real you deep down but yourself. Always allow yourself to free your mind, and let go of anything toxic that holds you back from shining your true authentic self. Happiness doesn’t come from others but within you, because you don’t need to depend on others for your own happiness!
Growing up, I’ve always been so insecure and constantly compared myself to others and felt like I wasn’t good enough. I’ve became more socially anxious in situations. I was always so unsure of myself, because I’ve felt like I didn’t belong in this world. I’ve struggled of maintaining confidence and opening up to others, and there were times where I had to fake my confidence to make myself seem strong. I felt like my guard was being put down at times, because I kept being judged for every little mistake I would make. I’ve missed out on so many opportunities due to my shyness and lack of self-esteem. The things that I’ve struggled till this day though, has made me into a much stronger person and the lessons that were taught. It gave me the ability to enhance my personal growth each and every single day. To all the lovelies out there that are feeling lost deep down, you’re never alone. You are so loved, powerful, and important.
Destroying your old self and starting a fresh new you isn’t always going to be easy. We all have our own ways to grow on our own, and it definitely takes some time. There’s no need to rush while you’re still young, but you can always start something new to become a better version of yourself. Here are the top ten things you can do to boost up your self-confidence:
- Develop new hobbies
- Start a skin care routine
- Deactivate all social media every now and then
- Learn how to cook
- Get out of your comfort zone and do things that scare you the most
- Get rid of bad habits
- Give compliments to yourself and remain humble
- Try on new outfits and dress out nice
- Do kind acts for yourself and enjoy your own company
- Stay active and exercise more
We may often compare ourselves to other people and wonder why we think they’re above us, but there are some things you might want to ask yourself first. Do they inspire you? Do you look up to them? Have they changed your life? What positive outcomes do they bring to you? If we often get jealous or compare ourselves to others, then we’ll never be able to embrace our flaws and insecurities. In order to grow and love ourselves even more, we have to surround ourselves with people that are honest and motivational.
Sometimes surrounding yourself with negative people can make you feel hopeless, when you should be surrounding yourself with people that bring light and positivity into your life. And you’re probably wondering, how can we find those people? Well once you cut off anything or anyone that constantly drains your energy, you’ll start to see a greater picture and a brighter view.
Being around people that make you feel like being “different” is a weakness, have no place in your life. We’re often told to fit in with everyone else rather than to stand out, or get told to do certain things to please others and gain their respect. If we’re constantly doing things that don’t satisfy us for others instead of for our own benefit, then we’ll never be happy.
Self-love is so important when it comes to friendships and relationships. Even if you’re single and haven’t been in a real relationship yet, you have to love yourself first before you can love someone else. It’s okay to put yourself and priorities first. You also don’t need to seek validation to learn how to love yourself, and it’s sad to see so many people fall into this trap. Remind yourself that you deserve more than just being an option, and that you can be your own priority without needing someone along the way.
There are moments where I still feel like I’m not good enough, but deep down I know that I’m enough. Everyone makes mistakes, and being “perfect” is impossible. Remember that it’s okay to make mistakes as long as you learn from it. You may feel like you don’t matter in this world, but you’re put on this Earth for a purpose. You MATTER and you are ENOUGH.
Thank you for the ones that took their time to read this, I hope you all have a wonderful and prosperous life!
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