From my previous post talking about self-love and ways to improve your confidence, I will give everyone ideas on what things you should try and do on this list! Even to this day, I still struggle to stay confident at times without feeling awkward. I know that some of you guys out there have felt the same way or dealt with lack of confidence, so now I have to practice what I preach in order for all of us to be in this together.
Let’s remind each other that our flaws shape us who we are today that make you, you and you shouldn’t feel bad about it. You may not feel loved, but you have no idea how much you’re actually loved and cared for.
What exactly is self-care, self-love, and self-confidence?
Self-care is taking good care of oneself physically and mentally for their own health. Self-care is about choosing to be happy and accept the things that can’t be changed, rather the things that can be changed. Self-love is loving yourself, accepting yourself as an individual, and being confident in who you are by knowing your worth. Sometimes people can mistakenly interpret self-love as cocky, conceited, selfish, or arrogant when self-love is about caring for oneself humbly. Self-confidence is being confident and capable to do one’s abilities. Self-confidence is to believe in oneself without doubting themselves. Self-confident people know that they’re never going to be perfect in everything they do, but they try their best to succeed anyway by not focusing on everyone’s opinions and needs.
1. Develop new hobbies
Try something new that you’ve always wanted to do, and you might be surprised by your hidden talent. Do artistic skills like painting, drawing, poetry, calligraphy, etc. Play new sports or one of your favorite sports. Buy some crafts, and knit or sew into something creative. Learn how to play an instrument. Go read a book, and gain that knowledge. Take dance classes or learn how to dance at home. Capture moments with your photography skills. Listen to music and sing your heart out. Any hobbies will help you grow confident, and have a better mental health. Growing deep into your hobbies helps you live fully in the present too. And you never know, one of your hobbies could end up as your passion one day! Remember it’s totally fine if you’re not the best at your hobbies, but always find something to do that’ll make you feel comfortable and happy at peace.
2. Start a skincare routine
Buying products that won’t always work for your face can be expensive when there are other tricks you can use from your kitchen. Everyone has different skin types: normal, dry, oily, sensitive, or both either way. Use DIY ingredients and natural products at home. Ex.) you can use regular rice flour and green tea with honey (optional), and add any amount. Make sure to wash your face with the best cleanser first, then put on moisturizer after rinsing your face mask. Doing skincare products at home can actually be beneficial for you. It’ll make you feel more cleansed, fresh, and healthier about your skin once you use it more often.
3. Deactivate all social media every now and then
Social media could have a major effect on your mental health if you don’t use it as a positive influence. Social media is a dangerous place full of strangers you’ve never met. Social media has made this generation feel that having money, and materialistic things will make your life more meaningful when life is so much more than that. Sometimes we worry too much about what other people think of us, and start to reflect negatively on ourselves. Being on social media can be a distraction, especially if you’re always so caught up of what everyone else is doing instead of enjoying your own free time. It’s common to seek acceptance and feel turned down in the end. Believe it or not, deactivating all of your social media often is worth it. It can be hard to delete your social media instead when you want to keep in contact with some of your family and friends online, but it’s best to be away from everyone else for quite a while to keep your mental health stable. Once you deactivate or delete your social media, you’ll realize how different your life might’ve turned out for the better.
4. Learn how to cook
Don’t know how to cook? Watch tutorials daily. Cook your favorite recipes and food. Try making new foods from scratch that satisfy you. Make something that you’ve always been craving. Learning how to cook at home will also save you tons of time and money than going out to eat. I guarantee you that your cooking skills will help you build yourself. Nothing is better than a home-cooked meal to share with yourself.
5. Get out of your comfort zone and do things that scare you the most
Travel by yourself. Be adventurous but take caution. Start a conversation with a stranger, you never know what they go through behind closed doors. A simple small talk or a smile could make someone’s day. Get involved in new activities and put yourself out there. Network, meet new people that have the same aspirations and goals as you. Don’t be afraid to take big steps that’ll help you learn and grow throughout the process.
6. Get rid of bad habits
It’s hard to get rid of any bad habits that keep you from being a healthier individual. We all have a bad habit that we just couldn’t help doing because we’re “bored” or it makes us feel “good” when in reality, it’s actually very unhealthy. Too much of anything that’s not good for your personal growth or health is toxic that needs to be cut out right away. Force yourself to break out of any bad habits you have that will keep you motivated in your everyday life.
7. Give compliments to yourself and remain humble
Compliment what you like about yourself. Remind yourself that you’re strong, and that other people’s opinions are none of your business. Tell yourself that you may not be perfect, but you are beautiful inside and out no matter what. Tell yourself that you’re just as worth it. Empower yourself and believe that you can do anything you put your mind to. Embrace the little flaws about you that make you different than everyone else, because being different is unique.
8. Try on new outfits and dress out nice
Wear new outfits with your favorite shoes and accessories. Wear your favorite jeans. Go out and try a new fashion trend. You don’t always have to go on a shopping spree for a new wardrobe. Pick out random clothes that you can find in your closet, and throw it into an outfit. Your new style will make you feel more elegant and confident. It’s important to dress and impress yourself first than to dress and impress others.
9. Do kind acts for yourself and enjoy your own company
Help yourself out and go treat yourself with coffee at a cafe. Spend time with yourself, solitude is always peaceful and keeps your mind at ease. Practice good hygiene. Write positive little notes and reminders for yourself everyday. Buy yourself roses and treats. Learn about yourself on your journey. Find what you like and dislike. You don’t want to lose yourself on someone else. Life’s not always about finding someone that will want you in their life or love you forever.
10. Stay active and exercise more
Go for a jog at the park. Workout at the gym weekly, your body image will improve. Clean the house and organize your room. Stretch yourself for 30 min. Do some yoga to relax your mind and body, this will help you be stress-free. Keeping your body running and moving at all times will help you stay productive. Whenever you get things done at your own pace, you’ll feel relieved. And no matter how tired you feel at the end, trust the process and know it’s worth it.